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Knowing What’s Needed

No matter what the situation is whether it’s work, sport or marriage you need to know what’s needed. For example at work you need to know what you have to do and what the boss expects of you before you can do it. On the tennis court you need to know what your partner expects, which balls you will go for if they come down the middle of the court and which they will take and you know you’re expected to play to the best of your ability. Why then do we think it should be any different when we … Continue reading →

Working With a Difficult Boss

While some people are lucky enough to be self-employed and be their own boss, most of us have to tolerate the emotional roller-coaster of the boss’ moods. This can take a toll on our personal happiness, even our mental health. Today, we will look at one particular example of the “power-mad boss”. One of the worse examples of the power-mad boss is the employee who is promoted up through the ranks and ends up being the manager of the people he or she once worked alongside. Take the case of Vicky. Vicky worked for seven years as a housecleaner with … Continue reading →

Why do we Focus on Whose Messing Up?

The other day, my oldest daughter and I made plans to get together and catch up. We’ve all been so busy with summer fun and obligations that we have not been really keeping up so well so she and I made a ‘date’ to make dinner together and chat. In the midst of our chatting, however, the other two came through and I could not pass up the opportunity to bring up a few “issues” that had come to my attention. My eldest finally asked a very important family question: Why is it that the ones who are messing up … Continue reading →

Whose Welfare Matters Most (Customers, Clients, Family, Self?)

Sorting and evaluating priorities can be one of the biggest wrestling matches we have to face in our home businesses. It might seem obvious and simple when we first get started—family first, business second; but the fact that we are working from home and the boundaries can get a little confusing can make it tough to figure out whose welfare we are really looking out for at any given moment… Our customers want to know that we are going to bat for them; our children and families have every right to expect that they will come first; and somewhere in … Continue reading →

You’re Not the Boss of Me!

This is actually one of my favorite phrases of childhood. I can remember saying it myself on numerous occasions and, I admit that there are still times when I feel myself balking at being “told what to do” by someone and I want to bark, “You’re not the boss of me!” In my own family, my three strong-willed children have often bucked and resisted having anyone tell them what to do—whether it was a parent, sibling, or other authority figure. It seems to be natural for our children to want to be in charge of their own choices and their … Continue reading →

Focused on Family

Sometimes it is useful to remind yourself why you do what you do with your home – based business. The past few days have been more demanding than usual, as is commonly the case when I am preparing for a court hearing. It is my experience during these most intense days, when I have many responsibilities for my businesses as well as my home and family, when I am most strongly reminded of why I do what I do in the way that I do it. I am certainly not keeping my caseload small in order to become a rich … Continue reading →

Stress and Stress Relief – Keeping The Balance

After reading this post by Richele McFarlin, I felt so relieved. It turns out that I am not the only one who gets overwhelmed or questions her capabilities from time to time. Thank you Richele for reminding me that we home – based professionals, like everyone else, are real. We each have our own things that we struggle with from time to time, and we all have to reach out and ask for help sometimes. Lately, I have been attracting work like a magnet. I am excited because I love my work, but I can not pretend that it does … Continue reading →

No Excuse

Sometimes, especially when we have been married a while, it can be a tendency to let down our guard and think we can do what we like and our spouse will still love us no matter what. It’s a form of taking our spouse for granted. While it’s comforting to know we can rely on them and that they will always be there for us, it doesn’t mean it’s a no holds barred situation. It doesn’t give us the license to say and do whatever we like and expect them to forgive us and accept it. Marriage still needs to … Continue reading →

What Does it Mean to Be Head of the Household?

What does it mean to be the head of the household? That’s the question someone raised recently in response to an earlier blog written by someone else on this site. In this blog I’m going to try and answer what it means for a marriage for someone to be the head of the household. Let me start by saying what I don’t think it means. It doesn’t mean that one person is in charge and rules everything that happens in the marriage. I don’t believe, as the last person who commented did, that it means the head of the household’s … Continue reading →

Do You Keep Track of Your Cellphone Better Than You Do Your Kid?

Cellphone. Check. Wallet. Check. Luggage. Check. Five-year-old daughter… hmmm… now where did I leave that kid of mine? Those might not be the exact words used by the parents of the little girl left sleeping in a Boston taxi cab earlier this week, but I’m sure they’re darn close. What’s more, I’m even more confident that thousands of absent-minded moms and dads around the world can relate to the Massachusetts’ family’s heart-stopping incident. The frightening tale began when the family of six took a cab home from Logan International Airport on Sunday. Apparently, the clan had just returned from a … Continue reading →